Geek In The Pink [Jason Mraz]
Why You Need To Know Your Own Soul
Before You Look For A Soulmate
I’m a firm believer you can’t have a meaningful relationship with someone until you’ve had one with yourself. And you can’t possibly have one with yourself if you’re always dating someone else.
That’s why when you see people who are single, you shouldn’t think of them as alone, but as if they are in an intense and meaningful relationship with themselves.
If you don’t absolutely love the person you’re left with, then you’re truly alone. You’re not ready for a real relationship until you’ve reached one with yourself.
You’re not looking for someone to complete you,
but complement you.
You complete yourself. You know who you are and what makes you happy. You find your happiness in your love for yourself, not someone else.
You know your soulmate will add to your life, but won’t ever make your life. You found your purpose long ago and no one can ever take that away from you or replace it.
You’re completely and absolutely in love with the only person who matters and your soulmate will just complement that love.
Your goals are for yourself,
not about someone else.
Loving yourself means having real goals, not just relationship ones. Your relationship with yourself is enough and the only thing you’re working toward is the kind of work to fulfill and sustain you for the rest of your life.
Unlike the relationships so many strive for, you’ve found a relationship within yourself and are working toward something to complete you in another way.
You already know who you are,
so you aren’t trying to be someone else.
Most relationships aren’t real because the people in them aren’t. Too many men and women refuse to take the time to get to know themselves and instead just become copies of people they think they need to be.
They pick up personalities and personas, usually realizing too late they don’t even like the people they’re pretending to be.
When you’ve spent enough time alone, you know who you are and who you’ll never be. You’re free to enter a relationship without the danger of losing yourself.
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The biggest mistake one can make is
losing yourself in the process of
valuing someone too much
and forgetting you are special too.
: 14th February 2015.
: 4.50 p.m.
: Jeli, Kelantan.
: I think my problem is; I am too comfortable being single.
Everyone around me is worried for me,
but I just feel comfortable with my life now.
Is that even a problem?